Let’s be honest—how many times has a simple conversation about bills, groceries, or spending turned into a full-blown fight?
If that sounds familiar, you’re not crazy—and you’re definitely not alone. Money is one of the biggest triggers in relationships. But here’s the thing: it’s rarely about the dollars. Most of the time, those fights are about the stories and patterns we inherited from growing up in chaotic or traumatic homes.
That’s why I sat down with Dr. Julia Myers for this week’s episode of Love & Trauma: The Real Deal. Julia is a nationally recognized keynote speaker, founder of Generational Wisdom, and mom of five. She’s the go-to expert on raising financially mature kids without entitlement, and she created the Generational Wisdom® Playbook to help families shift from inherited dysfunction into intentional financial and emotional leadership.
And wow—this conversation was packed. Julia and I dug into why money feels so personal, how trauma shapes the way we fight, spend, and save, and what it actually takes to break those cycles.
Here are The Real Deal—my three biggest takeaways I want you to try this week:
1️⃣ Catch the trigger
The next time a money fight sparks, pause and ask yourself, “What’s really going on here?” Is it fear, control, scarcity, or shame? Naming the trigger takes the sting out and gives you power in the moment.
2️⃣ Talk before it blows up
Don’t wait until bills are due or emotions are running high. Set aside a calm moment—ten minutes over coffee or in the car—and check in about money before it escalates. Those small conversations can change the whole tone.
3️⃣ Teach your kids differently
Instead of passing down silence, fear, or shame around money, pass down values—things like generosity, discernment, and common sense. And if you’re not sure where to start, Julia’s freebie is a game-changer. Grab it here: www.juliamyers.com/talk.
Because here’s the real deal: money doesn’t have to be the trigger that keeps you stuck. It can actually become the tool that builds more safety, connection, and legacy for your family.
👉 Watch the full episode with Julia Myers here — you don’t want to miss the powerful framework she shares at the end.
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