What if the things you think are “wrong” with you—or your partner, or your kids—aren’t really flaws at all, but trauma showing up in disguise?
That’s exactly what ties together three incredible conversations I’ve had recently on Love & Trauma: The Real Deal. In this special recap episode, I pulled out the moments that hit me hardest—moments that made me stop, think, and realize just how powerful healing really is.
Here’s a quick look at the guests featured in this recap:
✨ Maddy Wright – Growing up in a family that fostered babies straight from the NICU, Maddy saw firsthand how trauma can begin even before a child is born. Now a trauma educator and TBRI practitioner, she helps parents, teachers, and partners understand that “misbehavior” is often survival in disguise.
✨ Noha Mostafa – A trauma therapist for high-functioning people who are secretly running on empty, Noha reminds us that while we openly talk about migraines or back pain, too many of us suffer in silence when it comes to mental health.
✨ Maggie Weldon – After years of working through her own childhood trauma, a life-changing moment with a dying friend gave Maggie the clarity and conviction to help others find freedom and peace.
Each conversation brought so much wisdom—but here are The Real Deal: My 3 Biggest Takeaways I want you to carry with you (and start practicing today).
1. Get Curious Instead of Critical
When your partner snaps, your child melts down, or you feel yourself reacting—pause. Instead of jumping to blame or frustration, ask: What’s really going on underneath this?
Most of the time, it’s not defiance, laziness, or attitude—it’s survival. Trauma rewires how we respond, and what looks like “bad behavior” is often a nervous system trying to feel safe. Curiosity makes space for empathy, and empathy opens the door to connection.
2. Stop Carrying It All in Silence
We’ll tell anyone about a headache or a sprained ankle, but when it comes to anxiety, trauma, or burnout? We shut down.
Noha’s reminder was powerful: silence keeps us stuck. Healing begins when you give words to what you’re feeling—even if it’s just with one trusted person. You don’t have to carry it alone, and you don’t have to wait until it all comes crashing down to get help.
3. Your Healing Doesn’t Just Change You
Maggie’s story hit me right in the heart. Her healing journey wasn’t just about her—it became a gift to everyone around her.
That’s the truth about healing: it ripples. When you do the work to face your past, it doesn’t just shift your own peace and freedom. It impacts your kids, your partner, your family, your community—even strangers who see what’s possible because of your courage.
Your healing is someone else’s hope.
The Real Deal
If you take nothing else from this episode, remember this: healing is possible. And you don’t have to overhaul your whole life overnight. Start with one small shift.
👉 Get curious instead of critical.
👉 Say out loud what you’ve been holding inside.
👉 Take one step toward your own healing.
Because you deserve peace. Your relationships deserve peace. And it’s closer than you think.
🎧 Catch the full recap episode here: Facebook - CLICK HERE
You Tube - CLICK HERE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1830888391
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VxyJh2rXnBnpeV8d7Adqi?si=a44c1066ed534810
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