Supporting Loved Ones Through Addiction

My recent conversation with Cory Martin, founder of The Recovery Revolution, was one I wish I had heard years ago. Cory isn’t just another voice in the space—she’s lived this. From watching loved ones spiral to losing herself in codependent relationships, Cory has turned her pain into a powerful platform to help others find clarity, peace, and a new way forward.

Here’s what stood out to me most from our time together—and why this episode is an absolute must-watch.

1. You Can Love Someone Without Losing Yourself

I can’t tell you how many partners I work with who carry the belief that if they just love hard enough, things will change. Cory knows that story well. She shared how, for years, her happiness depended entirely on whether her loved one was “doing better.”

But here’s the truth bomb she dropped:

“I wasn’t helping them—I was enabling the cycle and losing myself in the process.”

Oof. That hit home.

Cory’s insight reminded me of so many wives I work with—women who are deeply empathetic, deeply loyal, and deeply depleted. What I loved about Cory’s message is that healing doesn’t mean giving up on someone. It means reconnecting with yourself so that you can love from a grounded, healthy place instead of one rooted in fear or control.

2. The Myths About Addiction Are Hurting Us All

One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was when Cory unpacked the myths that keep families stuck. My personal least favorite? The idea that someone has to “hit rock bottom” to want to change.

Cory shattered that:

“People can choose recovery at any point. Compassion often inspires change long before rock bottom ever does.”

YES. As someone who works in trauma recovery, I’ve seen the power of safe, compassionate connection over shame-based strategies. And I’ve seen how misinformation about addiction and healing keeps partners spinning in cycles of guilt, resentment, and helplessness.

The more we educate ourselves, the better we show up—for ourselves and for the ones we love.

3. Healing Isn’t About Them. It’s About You.

This might be the hardest shift for partners to make. But it’s also the most freeing.

Cory’s entire approach through The Recovery Revolution is based on the idea that healing starts with you. Not your partner. Not their recovery timeline. You.

And it’s not just a mindset—it’s a process. Cory walks families through six core shifts:

• Healing resentment

• Letting go of toxic myths

• Building emotional resilience

• Developing new relationship skills

• Rediscovering passions

• Reclaiming a life that’s not all about someone else’s addiction

As Cory said:

“Sometimes your healing inspires them to change. Sometimes it doesn’t. But either way—you’ll be okay.”

That? That’s the kind of peace so many of us are searching for.

Where Cory Is Now

Cory has built a beautiful life—one filled with clarity, connection, and purpose. She’s a mom, a coach, and the heart behind a movement that helps people reclaim themselves. Her story is living proof that even in the middle of chaos, it’s possible to find steady ground.

Final Thoughts

This conversation cracked something open in me. Because even though my work focuses on trauma recovery, the patterns Cory described—codependency, misplaced responsibility, emotional burnout—are everywhere in relationships impacted by trauma or addiction.

You don’t have to fix them. You don’t have to wait until they’re ready. You can begin healing right now.

Watch the full episode to hear Cory’s story, her tools for recovery, and how to finally love someone through addiction—without losing yourself.  CLICK HERE

And if you’ve been nodding along, whispering “me too”… you are not alone. Let’s keep this conversation going in the comments. What resonated most for you?

Ready to learn more? Visit www.recoveryrevolution.com