Pattern: He Avoids (Flight) + You Escalate (Fight)**
He avoids, you push for resolution. He feels attacked and retreats even harder. The more urgent it feels to you, the louder you get—maybe with ultimatums, pleas, or catastrophizing—anything to finally get through to him. But when he finally gives in, it’s not real resolution; it’s a hollow attempt to make the storm stop for now.

 

You know it’s temporary. You feel the resentment simmering even as things go “back to normal.” And the worst part? The next conflict is almost always the same freaking topic as last time. Around and around you go—exhausting yourselves, wearing out your hope, and wondering how long you can keep spinning like this before something finally breaks.