Your plan fits the pattern. Let's make it fit your actual marriage.

You've got your Roommates wording now. What a page can't know is your husband: the exact moment you both slide back into going through the motions, and which words get through to him instead of waiting for a big talk that never comes.

Haven't watched the free workshop yet?

It's one hour, it's free, and you can press play tonight: Know Exactly What to Do the Next Time He Shuts Down, Snaps, or Disappears. The wording in your Roommates plan belongs to five moves, and the workshop is where I teach them, through four real women on four real bad nights.

You'll leave with:

• The one body cue that tells you he's triggered, so you catch it before it spirals
• One thing to say and one repair line, made for your pattern, that you can use that same night
• A way to tell when he's able to hear you, so your words land instead of bouncing off

No fixing him required. The PAUSE worksheet and the whole slide deck come with it.

Already watched it?

Then you came here for the first box. Write The Roommates in the pattern box on your PAUSE worksheet, and use your Roommates plan above as your version of each move. If you've tried PAUSE and it isn't working, or you're thinking "I already do this," don't file it under nothing works. Sometimes it takes a neutral party and one small tweak to your wording or your timing to make the difference. The second box, SHARE, is the one I can't print for you. We build that one together, on a free Relationship Strategy Call: book my free call.

What this page can do is get you through tonight without losing yourself. What it can't do is change the pattern. That part takes practice, with someone in it with you.